I came across an idea
called “word for the year”. The concept
behind this is to pick a word that encapsulates what you hope to achieve this
year and use it to inspire you (there is a good explanation for this idea from
Sandra Pawula here). My word for 2011
was “courage”. I felt as if I needed to
break out of my everyday routines and try new things. I also had so many ideas for things I wanted
to try and needed the nerve to start trying some of them. I didn't have a word for 2012, but the word
that would have been best for me last year was “patience” – being pregnant for
most of the year meant that I was struggling to get along rather than rush to
try new things (with two new babies in the family, a third due and my sister’s
wedding, maybe “celebrate” could have been a good word too for last year).
My word for this year
is “discipline”. I have lots of
willpower and can be good at getting things done, but I often lack the
mindfulness to stick to good routines and habits. I have also realised you can be good at something,
but if you don’t have the discipline to stick with it, or even start it, you
are not going to be very successful in anything you attempt.
There are a number of
areas in my life I feel the need to bring this word:
Spending - I have been thinking lots about what we consider necessities and what
actually are necessary. I have a strong
urge to live more simply, buy less, consume less and teach my children to be
less materialistic and wasteful. I need
to be stronger in the face of the impulse to buy something just because i feel
like it and think through purchases.
Diet - I don’t believe in short spurts of dieting,
but I do believe in making incremental, permanent changes to our diets as we
move towards healthier diets which are more consistent with the sunnah (tradition)
of our beloved Prophet (peace be upon him):
“Nothing is worse than a person who fills his stomach. It should be
enough for the son of Adam to have a few bites to satisfy his hunger. If he
wishes more, it should be: One-third for his food, one-third for his liquids,
and one-third for his breath.” - Tirmidhi & Ibn Majah
I love food too much
and I eat too much, I also eat too many of the wrong types of food: chocolate,
fizzy drinks, pizza, burgers, kebab rolls, which I think you can get away with
when you are 18, but not so much when you are 33. So I need to be mindful every time I make the
decision to put something into my mouth and try to eat less but healthier food. So far I have made the switch from sugar to natural
sweetener. Next step is cutting down
meat consumption.
Health – I was close to the ideal weight I wanted to be before I was expecting
Darling. Now I am quite a lot
heavier. I have had a few people say it
suits me in the face and I don’t mind being a bit bigger, but my sore knees don’t
like it and I would prefer to be stronger and fitter. Hopefully now that hubby is back tomorrow
insh’Allah, we can go walking together or I can leave the baby with him and go
power-walking with my little sister.
Children – I have been working to try and get mealtimes, bedtime routines,
homework times and Quran lessons to set times.
This is coming along well. Now I
am working with Little Lady to come up with a plan to prepare for 11+ exams
later this year and agree parameters around computer usage with the kids as
this causes endless squabbling.
Time – I am starting my Arabic
course tomorrow and with four children, I will have to keep an eye on how i use
my time and avoid activities which eat up time unnecessarily such as too much
time on the internet or in the shopping mall.
Discipline around the
kids will be the easiest as this is the most important for me, discipline around
spending a little more challenging and around bad eating habits even more so.
“Dozens of studies show that willpower is the
single most important keystone habit for individual success.” – Charles Duhigg
“Self-respect is the
root of discipline: The sense of dignity grows with the ability to say no to
oneself.” - Abraham Joshua Heschel
What would your word for 2013 be?
Very well thought out goals! My word for the year would be 'Time' or rather 'time management'. I suck at it and can't get anything done properly. Your post has given me inspiration to try harder.
ReplyDeleteAssalam-alaikam Sis,
DeleteWith all the baking and blogging you do you seem to fit lots into your day!
ASA
ReplyDeleteYou know what I really love about your blog is how reflective you are and aiming towards goals-it is inspirational.
I can't think what my main word of the year would be-its a nice challenge to reflect on eveyrthing that went on and categorise it.
Let us know how the 11+ work is going (maybe a new blog in the future). What resoures are you finding useful?
Walaikam-assalam Sis,
DeleteI have to say blogging does encourage me to articulate my thoughts, which means I have more clarity around what I need/want to do.
I'm still doing a little research around the 11+, I think I'll blog on this soon, good idea sis.
Please do watch this with your daughter. Sarah Kay is an amazing role model of spoken poetry.
ReplyDeleteI was introduced to her by one of my students:
http://www.ted.com/talks/sarah_kay_if_i_should_have_a_daughter.html
I saw this ages ago and meant to show my daughter and then forgot all about it. Thanks for the reminder, I'm going to get her to listen.
DeleteMay this word for this year will be applied by us. It would be a better place for all of us if we have discipline in our lives.
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